How to Use a Strap On Dildo

A strap on dildo is a wearable sex toy with a harness that allows one partner to penetrate or stimulate the other during sexual activities. This innovative creation offers endless opportunities for different roleplay, positions and good old-fashioned rumpy-pumpy! There is a common misconception that strap-ons are just for same-sex female couples to replace the humble penis but this couldn’t be further from the truth.


In this comprehensive guide, dildoes.co.uk will explain everything you need to know about strap on dildos from their most important components to how to use a strap on dildo for different sexual naughtiness.

Anatomy of a Strap On: Deconstructing the Dildo

Before we delve into the steamy details of how to use a strap-on, let's break down its key components:


  1. The Dildo: The star of the show, dildos come in a dizzying array of shapes, sizes and textures. Most dildos can be incorporated into a strap on set up but just double-check before you make your purchase.

  1. The Harness: The unsung hero, the harness is what holds the dildo in place, allowing the wearer to wield it with confidence and precision. Again, most harnesses can secure a range of dildos but there are some which already have a dildo attached that can’t be removed.

  1. The O-ring: A small, but mighty component, the O-ring secures the dildo to the harness. Like the glue that holds your IKEA furniture together, the O-ring is essential to the success of your strap-on experience.

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Strap It Good: Choosing the Right Harness

Choosing the right harness is important because you want it to be comfortable and also to hold the dildo in place like it’s a real penis. If the harness is no good, you will need to hold the dildo with your hands which defies the whole point of a strap on. 


Here are three main types of harnesses to consider when assembling your strap on dream team:


  • Two-strap harness: The classic design, featuring one strap around the waist and one between the legs. Think of it like a sexy jockstrap, offering both stability and easy access.

  • Three-strap harness: A more secure design, with one strap around the waist and two straps that wrap around each leg. Like the cosy embrace of a hug, this harness offers extra support and control.

  • Underwear-style harness: For the fashion-forward and comfort-conscious, the underwear-style harness resembles a pair of briefs, offering both style and ease of use. It's like slipping into your favourite pair of undies, but with a sexy twist.

If you're new to the strap-on game, give yourself some time to get comfortable with the harness and dildo. Try wearing it around the house, practising thrusting and getting a feel for the weight and balance. Ultimately, the right harness for you is down to personal preference so experiment with different styles and see which you find most comfortable and secure.

The Art of the Strap: Getting Down to Business

Now that we've covered the basics, it's time to get down to the nitty-gritty: how to use a strap-on dildo. Here are some sultry scenarios and tantalising techniques to get your creative juices flowing:

Pegging

In a glorious role reversal, a female partner can wear a strap-on to penetrate her male partner's love tunnel, stimulating his prostate for mind-blowing pleasure. Just remember, a generous dollop of lubricant can go a long way in ensuring a smooth and pleasurable experience for both the wearer and the receiver.

Double penetration

For those who like it a little extra, using a strap-on can allow for simultaneous vaginal and anal penetration (or two dongs in one hole!), taking pleasure to new heights.

Girl-on-girl action

Strap-ons are a fantastic addition to lesbian play, allowing for mutual pleasure and intimacy in a variety of positions and techniques.

Role-playing

Unleash your inner actor and use a strap-on to explore different roles and scenarios, playing with gender, dominance and positions. Make sure to set boundaries, discuss desires and check in with each other throughout the experience.

Erectile dysfunction

Strap-ons can be a game-changer for those who experience erectile dysfunction or other performance issues, allowing for a more satisfying and intimate experience

Final Thoughts

We hope this guide on how to use a strap on dildo has helped to reveal some of the secrets of these incomparable sex toys. For too long, people have wrongly assumed that strap ons are only for girl-on-girl lovemaking but this is so far wide of the mark. Strap on dildos can enhance absolutely everybody’s bedroom shenanigans and no sex toy collection is complete without one! So harness (pun intended) your knew found knowledge and begin your strap on dildo adventures today!